Names are important.

We spend a lot of time picking out our children's names.

When we marry, our husbands give us their name.

 It's not just our names that are important but the name of everything.

Every known thing has a name.

Trees, paper, medicine, tv shows, hotels, games, and on and on.

Every thing has a name even things like, worry, depression, hopelessness, financial stress. cancer, tumors, resentment, hurt feelings, laziness, sickness, learning disabilities, jealousy, anxiety.

You could say, you name it and it has a name.

Just a few days ago Mark and I had some distressing news.

It felt like more distressing news on top of the distressing news we were already working through.

We were sitting in the drive thru at McDonalds going over how it all seemed to much.

If Mark hadn't had the steering wheel and if I wasn't digging through my purse we would have been wringing our hands.

Then it hit us.

What are we doing?

We are too old to be acting like this.

We have read a…


I often get messages from people telling me I hit the nail on the head.

They say I said just what they needed to hear.

I've been asked if I had a listening device installed in their home.

I must have been a fly on the wall.

I've even had a few people message me mad  because they thought I was targeting them with my post.

If the posts are hitting someone where they need hit or if they are offering a hand up when they need one it has nothing to do with me.

I spend very little time thinking about what I post, I know you are saying, "Yeah, we can tell."

What I mean is if you read something here and it's good, it's from God.

It might be a thought I had while I was doing my morning reading so I decided to share it.

It might be something I saw or heard and it got me to thinking so I share it.

Sometimes it's in response to a question someone has sent in.

It has to be that way.

It has to be God giving me thoughts.

There is no way I can know what someone needs to h…


I was talking to a sweet friend this morning.

She was asking about some of the things I did with my children when they were small.

Just yesterday someone told me I was a good mother, they even went so far to say they thought I must have been a perfect mother.

I felt myself cringe.

Whenever I'm complimented on my mothering I feel that way.

I feel embarrassed because I know the truth.

I know my kids know the truth.

I made more mistakes than you can shake a stick at.

Most of you watched me and probably knew I was making mistakes.

The crazy thing is I made them because I was trying to do it right.

I though if I did this or had them do that or didn't let them do this of did have them do something else everything would be okay.

You know what made my kids turn into the man and the women they are today?

It was God.

He is so full of mercy and goodness and he has a place in his heart for mommas.

He listened all those nights I went to bed and cried because I had failed or I was scared an…


Have you ever known a jealous person?

Have you ever been a jealous person?

We're jealous when we want what someone else has.

We hear someone say something nice about another person and instead of hearing the other person complimented, we hear ourselves criticized.

Has anyone you considered in your circle been kind to someone outside your perceived circle and you felt as if you had been left out or overlooked?

It's been said that envy or jealousy is like drinking poison hoping the other person will die.

We can go so far with jealousy that it actually becomes resentment or even bitterness.

That's when we are not only upset we don't have whatever it is we want we don't want the other person to have it.

The problem or well I should say one of the problems with jealousy is it keeps us from focusing on what we do have.

It keeps us from seeing our own skills and abilites

It will damage relationships.

It will damage the relationship of the person we are jealous of and the …


I've been asked a few questions and I'm going to try to answer.
The most freeing thing I have ever learned is that everyone is not like me.
God uses people who think different and believe different than I do.
He uses all kinds of people to reach all kinds of people.
And it's none of my business who he uses or how he uses them.
If only I had known sooner.
Romans 14:4 says in a nutshell...Who are you to judge another man's servant? To his own lord he stands or falls.
You know what that means?
That means, mind your own business.
It's not up to me to decide who God is using and who he isn't.
I think about the Duggers from the tv show 19 and Counting and I think about the show Duck Dynasty.
Now talk about a vast difference in christian families, thats a vast difference.
Which one is more used by God?
Which one has reached the most people?
We don't know do we.
If we are clean cut churchy people we might lean toward the Duggers.
Now granted they had some bad thing…


For as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.


Did you read that.

The way you think is the way you are.

It's not only the Bible that knows that.

Countless, psychologists,  counselors, therapists and so many others know this.

You know this.

Attitude is everything.

The Bible gives us countless instructions about how to think and what to think about.

The problem is we don't do it.

It's like going to weight watchers and never doing the program.

The program works but it won't work if you don't do it.

I've been reading a book about self pity.

We all know it's a waste of time and we all don't like to be around someone who is always telling you how bad they are treated or how unfair life is.

No one ever admires that about anyone.

The first thing to do is to examine ourselves, God said, a man ought to examine himself, and as always, he was right.

We all know if we don't get real with ourselves we won't be able to see who we really are.

We will keep b…


My dad stopped smoking when he was 62 years old.

He started smoking when he was 14.

I love to hear him tell about the time he and my uncle Paul, dad's youngest brother were smoking in the barn.

Dad said they had got some cigarettes and matches and went to the barn and got down in a stable and started trying to smoke.

Pretty soon Grandma came into the barn and called out to them.

She said, "What are you boys doing back there?"

Dad said Uncle Paul jumped up and said, "We ain't smokin Mom, we ain't smokin."

That made my dad so mad.

He said it was just the same as running out and telling her
they were smoking.

I remember when I was in the fourth or maybe fifth grade and I tried to smoke.

Mom and dad were some place I don't remember where but my older brother, my younger brother and my best friend Cindy were there with me.

Cindy and I got the matches and cigarettes and decided to smoke.

We were pretty smart though, we got a cup and poured mouth wash in …