They Manipulate as Newborns and Don't Understand as Toddlers....Really?
We've shared this simple little tip before but as we get new friends here it's always good to share again. When you are dealing with your little ones about something go to them and get down on their eye level. Look them in the eye and talk to them. They are smarter than you think, they can understand more than you think when you are calm and speak simple. If they are misbehaving and you need to do something, don't yell it from another room, if it really needs to be dealt with then it is important enough for you to stop what you are doing and go to the scene. In the beginning years if you put the time in to training that it takes your toddler years will be much smoother. An older woman once told me if my child was a normal healthy child I should have them under control by 18 months to 2 years old. Now days people think that is crazy but it isn't. Satan as always sold us a bill of goods. Our society tells us that our newborns or tiny babies are manipulating us and we will spoil them if we pick them up and snuggle them. They are saying that newborn is smart enough to manipulate. Then put two years on that same child, let them start having a trantum because they can't do what they want or they won't do what we say and then we say they can't help it, they are just to young to understand. Do you see the craziness of it? Do you see how Satan has slipped these so called educated lines in on us? A baby who cries to he held is not manipulating anyone. It is a real need of a baby to be held and snuggled and made to feel secure. If they don't get it when they need it they will struggle from that for a long time. It is hard on us but it's just part of it. Hold them when they need it everytime they need it and the day will come when they will start pushing away from you. They will wiggle to get out of your arms. When you make them feel secure, when you let them know you are there they will get brave enough little by little to leave you and they will grow up and stand on their own. Now lets think about that 18 month old who turns red in the face and gets stiff when you try to put their coat on them. You are afraid to do anything because they are just little and don't understand. Oh don't you beleive it for a minute. They know exactly what they are doing. They don't want to put their coat on. They know you want them to so they are going to resist you. They are smart enough to know how to resist you and if you don't do something when it happens at home it will happen at the store, at your friends house, at church and daycare. When they do that stuff don't forget who the parent is. Get down on their level, take a hold of their shoulders let them feel your firm hands on their shoulders. Tell them to stop it and say it slow and clear. You have got to let them know they are not the boss, you are. If they think they are they will be insecure. I could say so much more but this is my parenting tip in a nutshell today. One I learned from a lady a long time ago. I listened to her and it worked.
I'm sure you like me have aunts or uncles that stand out in your mind when you think of your childhood.
I was blessed with many wonderful aunts and uncles and even more blessed to have so many great aunts and uncles.
My Great Aunt Dorothy Marshall Hein, my paternal grandfathers sister turned one hundred in July.
She didn't just turn one hundred she is living a full life at one hundred.
She still gets out and goes, she still cooks meals for her family,still goes to church and loves her family, church family and community.
I remember as a girl when my mom was sick Aunt Dorothy would bring food. I remember her strawberry pies the best.
My moms says, "Aunt Dorothy was always there for a birth and for a death, always there to help no matter the need.
There is a family story told about the time when Aunt Dorothy was a young girl and her family sold strawberries she wrote her name and address on a berry box and that box found it's way to Chicago, a young man rode his motorcy…