The Good and the Bad of Mothers Day.

It's almost Mothers Day and that brings out a lot of feelings.

For some they are good feelings, for some not so good.

There is a lot of pressure on people at Mothers Day.

You love your mother, you appreciate her but now there is pressure to show her and the world how much.

Not only your mother but maybe your spouses mother too.

Then there are your own kids, they are going to be trying to do something for you while you are trying to do for others.

I'm not against Mothers Day but at the same time I don't put a lot of stock in it.

I don't put all of my worth as a mother in the basket of How I Was Treated on Mother's Day.

I hope my mother doesn't either.

Some people hate Mothers Day because it reminds them of the mother they never had or the mother that has gone on.

It reminds them of the child they have lost or the one who doesn't speak to them anymore.

For people who are going through a season of strain with their mother it makes them uncomfortable.

They love mom but things are difficult this year or maybe just this day.

My mom and I are close.

I love her with all my heart but we've had our seasons.

Sometimes we still do.

We've been mad at each other.

I mean you know how it is when your mother irritates you and you don't say anything but inside you are thinking, "OH Mom, will you just stop already"

We've had those times and we've also had those times when we've said what we were thinking.

The tension was in the room or on the phone wire.

That's life.

We get up and we go on.

I think my children and I are close but sometimes they bug me, sometimes I am ready for them to go home.

Sometimes they make me mad.

Sometimes I make them mad.

Sometimes they don't want to come over because they don't want to hear me so and they don't.

Sometimes we get on each others nerves, I don't know why they do what they do and they don't know why I say  what I say.

It' also true the sweetness that is between us is unreal.

I love them so much it hurts and it's scary.

I feel a panic rise up in me at the thought of being without one of them.

Mothers and Mother's Day can bring out a whole array of emotions.

Don't stress over the day.

Don't have unrealistic expectations.

Don't expect anything and be thankful for what you have.

Face what it is and move on.

If' it's hard for you, make it easier by making it good for someone else.

To sum it up if it's good for you, celebrate it to the max. savor every moment of it.

Embrace it and the ones you love.

If it's difficult for you, don't begrudge the day to others, don't throw water on their day but you don't have to do things that make it hard on you either.

Stay off of facebook the next couple of days, don't be looking at the "perfect" relationships everyone else seems to have.

Don't look at what all the neighbors kids did for her.

Don't read those stories that people post about their mom always being there for them.

Don't set yourself up.

Still yet though, if you had or have a mother you want to give a shout out too, by all means do it.

Honor her and the good things about her.

Give her the praise due her.

It's not wrong to post and you shouldn't feel guilty if you do.

It's not wrong to stay away from the postings for a few days and just spend the time doing something else.

Don' t get overly caught up in Mother's Day or Father's Day.

Don't put pressure on yourself or your children.

When it's all said and done it's just a day.

Treat it how you need too.

Keep a good attitude no matter where you find yourself as far as your mother is concerned.

It's all going to be okay and the day after Mother's Day is only two days away.

Remember, make everyday good for someone and it will be a good one for you.


Comments

  1. Kelly, YOU have summed up Mother's Day perfectly - with a bit of everything - some mirth and tears of joy & sadness. Absolutely LOVE the last line 'Make everyday good for someone and it will be a good one for you'... Every Mother can seize the day with that thought :)

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  2. I love this, Kelly. I was planning to write something about these sorts of conflicts today, as well. It's only one day of the year.

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