In Due Season
I love to celebrate as well as the next person but from the conversations I've been hearing lately, I wonder if in our quest to make everything a big deal we have made it so nothing seems a big deal.
Maybe we've turned everything into a big burden.
It seems we try to make everyone experience everything sooner and sooner.
Remember when you were a kid and you couldn't wait to ride in the front seat?
It usually went down the line starting with the oldest.
It was just understood you waited your turn.
Then think about being a little girl and seeing the high school girls go to the prom. They were like a princess and you dreamed of the day that would be you.
But somewhere along the line we decided you shouldn't wait and started having 5th and 6th grade dances.
Then there is the whole issue of graduations, I've heard people say they have to go to pre-school graduations, kindergarten and Jr. high ones. They ask, do you take a gift to all of them? If I had a grandchild in preschool and they were having a graduation, of course I would go and of course,I would think they looked adorable but I would still find it unnecessary.
It sounded good but the truth is we haven't given our children anything by doing all of this, actually we've stolen from them.
Remember the saying, "Good things come to those who wait." It really is true.
One of the biggest gifts you can give your children is the gift of waiting for the big things of life.
We all need to experience that right of passage, we need to be able to say with pride we've paid our dues, even in something as simple as getting to ride in the front seat.
Try not to cave into the pressure of giving it all to them to soon or one day you will find yourself unable to give anything pleasing.
We can't change everything but we are the captain of our homes and to a certain extent the course we chart is in our hands.
Chart with a voice of reason, in due season it will lead to them into enjoying a grand celebration!
Maybe we've turned everything into a big burden.
It seems we try to make everyone experience everything sooner and sooner.
Remember when you were a kid and you couldn't wait to ride in the front seat?
It usually went down the line starting with the oldest.
It was just understood you waited your turn.
Then think about being a little girl and seeing the high school girls go to the prom. They were like a princess and you dreamed of the day that would be you.
But somewhere along the line we decided you shouldn't wait and started having 5th and 6th grade dances.
Then there is the whole issue of graduations, I've heard people say they have to go to pre-school graduations, kindergarten and Jr. high ones. They ask, do you take a gift to all of them? If I had a grandchild in preschool and they were having a graduation, of course I would go and of course,I would think they looked adorable but I would still find it unnecessary.
It sounded good but the truth is we haven't given our children anything by doing all of this, actually we've stolen from them.
Remember the saying, "Good things come to those who wait." It really is true.
One of the biggest gifts you can give your children is the gift of waiting for the big things of life.
We all need to experience that right of passage, we need to be able to say with pride we've paid our dues, even in something as simple as getting to ride in the front seat.
Try not to cave into the pressure of giving it all to them to soon or one day you will find yourself unable to give anything pleasing.
We can't change everything but we are the captain of our homes and to a certain extent the course we chart is in our hands.
Chart with a voice of reason, in due season it will lead to them into enjoying a grand celebration!
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